This post is not a self-help book, but an attempt at justifying life choices that have uncomplicated and improved the past few months compared to whatever I was doing before.
Think of this like an entry from Chicken Soup for the Burnt Out Soul.
In case you haven’t been keeping up, I took a massive shift in course recently, pulling away from what I thought was the perfect professional plan. Turns out, there’s no such thing, and I was wasting the one life I have in a 9 x 9 windowless office. Let me be clear: I loved the chase. I love to be challenged and overcommitted and working toward seemingly impossible goals. But last year I started to feel adrift in a raft with a big hole and a tiny bucket.
So I got out of the boat.
When the cost-benefit analysis no longer matches up, it’s time to make a change. The funny thing, though, was that the only person who judged me for bailing was me.
I don’t judge me anymore, but it’s been a process learning to accept a new path, let go of stale perceptions and expectations I was holding about myself, and celebrating mediocrity.
No, I’m serious. Call me Stuart Smalley, but by accepting that I’m doing enough, making enough money, trying hard enough, and AM enough without killing myself for some unattainable standard of [insert frivolous goal here], life has gotten super great.
It’s funny how simplifying our living spaces has gotten so trendy, but our lives have become so complicated. I’m here to tell you: it doesn’t have to be like this. Say no to the things you don’t want to do, say yes to the things you do, and the rest, really, works itself out. I’m unwilling to clear clutter from my sock drawer (sorry Marie Kondo), but decluttering my commitments has paid off in spades. I’m a better employee, a better writer (ok, that one is questionable), and a better partner, daughter, sister, and friend.
Trust me, those things matter more than whatever is bogging you down and preventing you from being awesome. So figure out what’s really important, and let the rest go.
*steps down from soap box*